A Nigerian Lady on Facebook, Ifediba Oluchi Anne reveals on her blog, that she’s a whore, and she has slept with a good amount of men.
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I a whore! When people ask me how many men I have slept with, I tell them “2708 men excluding women”. The look on their face is always priceless and they go on to give me a speech about how I have been useless all my life.
I a whore! When people ask me how many men I have slept with, I tell them “2708 men excluding women”. The look on their face is always priceless and they go on to give me a speech about how I have been useless all my life.
Some of them go the extra mile to tell me to give my life to Christ and retrace my steps so I can get married and have kids. One time, a man told me I may not be able to have kids in the future as I had sinned too much and not kept my temple holy. I do find it funny that people are quick to shame me based on my sexual choices as a woman while cheering on a man who was the same body count as I do.
I grew up in a religious home. My parents attended The Lord’s Chosen and my mom was a fanatic for the church and its doctrines. The only s*x education I got was one which relied greatly on abstinence. My mom would always sound it in my ears that I had to be a v!rgin. To her, virgins were entitled to a special kind of blessing from God and a sweet lasting marriage.
When I was 17, I had s*x with a man who was way older than I was. He touched my b00bs in the stairs and gave me gifts at every turn. I would admit that the situation which I grew up in didn’t teach me how to say “No” without feeling bad. It has taken me a good number of years to set boundaries and shun the things I do not like without being ridden by guilt.
After my first s*x experience which should be considered as r ape in every sane country, I went through bouts of emotional breakdown. I had done something which society frowned at and I needed time to accept it. One would expect that I would never repeat such action anymore but I only went ahead to have more s*x and do all sorts of stuff mom and church told me not to do. I never got any form of sexual education so you should know I made a lot of mistakes (which I love to call lessons)
I am not a whore because I have slept with the fictional amount of men ( yes, 2708 men is a fictional figure) although I have slept with a good amount of people. I am a wh0re because I talk about s*x too often.
A good number of adults in Nigeria are having s*x but as long as they don’t talk about, it is fine. Nigerians talk about sex. They talk about how s*x is like an exercise for men. They talk about how it is okay for men to have as much s*x as they want while they tell women to keep themselves.
They talk about how rape is caused by women seductive dressing. They talk about how any woman with more than 1 body count is not wife material. They talk about how women privates can be used as a collateral for jobs and favors. They talk about how any woman who has had s*x before should not cry r ape if a man takes her against her will.
As long as you talk about sex the same way they are accustomed to then you are fine. For a while now, I have been talking differently about s*x on Facebook. When Instablog9ja and other media carried one of my posts, people slut-shamed me.
I have come to realize that slut-shaming is only offensive when the victim feels hurt. I do not feel hurt.I am a whore…I said it. I sleep with men and talk about s*x shamelessly on my blog in ways that really matter.
Ifediba Oluchi Anne is a lifestyle & s*x blogger, and she blogs at Crazyanne.com
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