1. Don’t
be afraid to ask to use s*x toys, especially ones that you’re
comfortable with, like that trusty vibrator that always gets you off.
Don’t be afraid that your guy will get offended. If he can have an
awesome orgasm, don’t you deserve to as well?
2. Tell
them stuff isn’t just revolving around the vagina. Educate him about
the clitoris, and what other nerve endings make you tingle and are your
favorites. Teaching him can be s*xy, instead of feeling like you’re
telling him what he does wrong.
3. Ask
him where he plans on coming. I know this doesn’t feel that romantic
and can be a little bit awkward to approach, but it’s better than having
an impromptu on-the-middle-of-your-back situation that makes you feel
sticky and not so good. If there’s somewhere you prefer other than
inside the condom, definitely let him know beforehand.
4. Tell
him what positions you prefer. Ask for anything specific that you know
will get you off. What turns you on? Neck kissing, whatever turns you on
before the big moment. If you’re specific, it could even turn into some
dirty talk.
5. It’s
ok to ask him to stop rubbing your boobs like they’re your clit. If you
pretend something feels good and guys have had girls pretending they
like it their whole lives, no one will learn anything from the
situation.
6. You
can ask him if he’s cool with period s*x, rather than evading s*x
completely when you’re really horny, or having an “oops, I guess I got
it today” dishonest moment. You’ll be able to tell if he’s a mature
adult as opposed to a grossed-out little boy based on this conversation,
so it’s a good one to have anyway.
7. Ask
for him to go down on you! Or to adjust the technique. Guys sure aren’t
afraid to ask for blowjobs, or to tell a girl if she’s using too much
teeth, so you deserve to be treated like a princess when he goes
downtown as well. The better he makes you feel, the better he’ll feel.
8. Ask
him for a condom. Don’t feel guilt-tripped into doing anything without
it. This is something that’s fine to be stern about. STI’s and accident
pregnancies are nothing to mess with.
9. Also,
don’t feel guilty for not going down on him if there’s not a clean or
decent grooming situation down there. If it’s a not so aromatic
full-grown bush, politely decline and don’t feel forced into it.
10. Don’t
be shy about asking to watch porn. No matter what kind it is. Almost
guaranteed this will turn a guy on, and there’s nothing to be ashamed
of.
11. Rough
s*x can be a tricky and sensitive subject to manage. If you want it,
ask for hair pulling, give boundaries, give a safe word, and guide his
hands. Safe rough is the key.
12.
Don’t be afraid to ask to be more submissive one time and more dominant
another. It’s not weird to want to jump his bones dominatrix style one
time and have your hands behind your back another.
13. Talk
to him about how he doesn’t have to last 45 minutes for you to be
satisfied; guys can actually think that. Sometimes endurance can just be
painful.
14. Ask
him to go slower, or to change his method. Don’t be worried about
offending someone mid-sex. What’s more offensive is not listening to
your own body – hey, he still gets to touch your luscious skin so it’s a
win-win for him!
15. Ask
for it again, if you weren’t satisfied once. Again, you can’t be afraid
of offending someone for the sake of your own pleasure. Try something
new this time – dudes just need a refractory period so don’t ask for it
incredibly fast after the first session because nobody is Superman.
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