A man acts differently when he is in
love with his wife. Everything changes: what he thinks about, how he
spends his time and what he says. His thoughts, actions, desires and
words all revolve around building up the woman he loves.
A husband like this never says the following eight things to his wife. If he does, then he doesn’t truly love his girl.
1. “I just can’t deal with all of this right now.”
No relationship is perfect, but a man
who refuses to deal with the struggles of marriage (no matter how big or
small they may be) isn’t fully committed. Husbands who use this phrase
are really implying that they’re looking for an escape – an easier way
out – because they aren’t willing to fight and sacrifice for the woman
who they supposedly love.
2. “You would be more attractive if you … ”
Women don’t exist to please men, and no
man who truly loves his wife would ever say something like this to her.
Even if his intentions are good, telling a woman to do her hair like
this, wear this outfit, lose this much weight and so on destroys her
soul and crushes her self-esteem like nothing else. Sure, a good husband
can respectfully give his honest opinion when his wife asks what he
thinks about her appearance. But he should never attack her physicality
or objectify her.
3. “You aren’t enough for me. I deserve better.”
No woman will ever be good enough for
the husband who says this. And to any wife who ever hears this toxic
phrase leave her husband’s lips, YOU DESERVE BETTER. A man who says this
isn’t in love and has no concept whatsoever of what love is. True love
isn’t always looking for the next best thing; it’s loving the person you
chose to be with and helping them reach their fullest potential.
4. “You need to change.”
It’s normal for both women and men to
want to be their best selves for their partners. But it is grotesquely
wrong to think a woman has to transform herself into a different person
to please her husband. This goes against everything a marriage is. If a
man can’t love his wife for whom she is, then he’ll never be satisfied
with her when and if she does change.
5. “You just don’t get me anymore.”
A husband who says this is far from
feeling true love for his wife. Instead, he feels disconnected from her.
If he did love her, then he would try to better explain his feelings
instead of just assuming she doesn’t care or understand.
6. “Why can’t you be more like her?”
Any husband who says this has clearly
fallen out of love. This hurtful question shows he is paying more
attention to other women than he is his wife.
And it only gets worse. Not only is he
paying more attention to other women, but he’s also fantasizing about
them to some degree. He does this by wishing his wife would emulate
certain qualities he finds appealing in other women. Though this kind of
behavior isn’t physical infidelity, it can be just as bad and lead to
just as serious of a heartbreak.
7. “You’re overreacting.”
The twin and equally hurtful sister of this comment is, “You’re being overly sensitive.”
If a man truly loves his wife, then
what’s a big deal to her will be a big deal to him. He won’t criticize,
diminish or brush off the way she feels or reacts to something just
because he feels differently about it. Instead, he will try to
understand her perspective and do what he can to help relieve any stress
or anxiety she feels.
8. “You’re holding me back.”
This is a poisonous phrase a man truly
in love would never say to his wife. If he loves her, then he couldn’t
imagine going forward in life without her. He would also recognize how
she helps him be better and how only he holds himself back by choosing
to not love her.
The problem with this eighth statement
and the others in this article is that they are all saturated with
selfishness. Marriage takes two people. A husband who says these things
to his wife thinks only of his own happiness instead of the joint
happiness that only pure and genuine love can bring.
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