Relationship
success really comes down to one key thing. Your ability to recognize,
appreciate and meet the needs of your partner. That takes effort from
both parties. The more men can connect to, and accept and communicate
their needs to their partner, the more deeply connected couples will
become.
1. Space
Men need time
on their own to process information and feelings. When women provide
this space, it allows the man to step forward. Women naturally want to
decrease space to create connection, which often makes men feel
suffocated and overwhelmed. It is important for men to communicate that
by having this space it makes them a better partner.
2. Affection
Although
men have been programmed to show up strong and be providers, they are
still human and at their core have a need for affection. It’s not
natural for boys to go from being cared for by their mothers to not
needing any affection at all.
Let her know you like to
be touched, kissed, or that when she rubs your shoulders after a rough
day, you feel loved. Under that confident, strong, and manly exterior is
still the heart of a boy that needs to feel loved – and that is a
really good thing!
3. Respect
Men
work hard. The desire to excel and contribute is a natural part of
their DNA. In order to achieve a sustainable loving relationship bond
with a woman, it is critical that she respects him. Clearly, demanding
respect is never an effective way to get it; however, acting with
integrity, sharing values, building trust, and demonstrating respect for
her is a great way to garner respect.
4. Understanding
Men
are different than women. Period. I think we all know that by now. But
do we really get that? Women complain about how much men work but fail
to understand that often a man is fulfilling his life’s purpose through
his work or providing for his family, which is often his way of showing
love. It is easier for women to understand this need when you can
communicate how important your work is, not only to you as a confident,
contributing member of society, but as a part of the partnership and the
future you are building together. If she understands the meaning of
your work, she will naturally be more understanding.
5. Connection with their kids
Women
have traditionally been the primary caregiver of children and for the
most part still carry a lot of the weight when caring for children.
However, what often happens is women brush off men’s attempts to help
because they feel they can do it better.
6. To add value
Men
by nature are problem solvers. Women just like to share, to talk things
through and to feel heard. If you can shift your understanding to know
that by simply being present and actively listening to your partner, you
are adding value, then you will be miles ahead of most. Value does not
always come in the form of action or solution.
After
you have listened and heard you can say, “Babe, that is really
frustrating. I thought of something that might help you. Are you
interested or do you just need an ear right now?” Now that is adding
golden value!
You have a lot of power to create freedom
and happiness in your relationship. They key is understand that having
needs does not make you needy, they make you human. The most effective
way to relationship success is for you to start sharing them with your
partner.
– Information Nigeria
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